Richard D. Bartlett@RichDecibels

a recipe for changing yourself: (dont use this for brainwashing/cults ok) many of the traits you perceive to be "your personality" or "your limitations" are not "inside of you" they are your relation to specific social norms norms are enforced by shame shame is anticipation of social sanction appreciation is anti-shame medicine norms are context dependent social contexts are malleable we can make a social context where you can break the norm you usually strive to uphold, and instead of being shamed, you are appreciated precisely for that behaviour after just a couple of tries, if we invalidate your hypothesis that you will be punished if you break the norm, you become highly malleable